Bridesmaids' duties can vary depending on hierarchy. If you're a maid of honour, your duties may be significantly more. Nonetheless, you're expected to help your bride-to-be whether you're a bridesmaid or MOH. If you're not entirely sure what you've gotten yourself into, read on. It won't be as strenuous as you think...we hope. Kidding – you'll have a blast!

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Before the wedding

  • Get that WhatsApp group chat started with the bride and wedding party to keep everyone updated on events, things to do, etc.
  • Make sure you're available to help out with any DIY tasks or decision making.
  • Don't miss out on the wedding dress shopping – your bride will want you with her.
  • That also goes for bridesmaids dress fittings.
  • Be supportive and don't complain when your bride brings up any wedding talk. All in moderation, of course – you're allowed to keep her in check if it's all she wants to talk about.
  • Be on hand with a bottle of Prosecco when needed.
  • Pamper her – book some cute mates dates to get your nails/hair done.
  • Plan the most amazing hen party – one that the bride will actually want.

In the run-up

  • Make sure you attend any last-minute beauty appointments or if the couple is having a rehearsal dinner, you'll need to be there for that.
  • If you've been asked to get your own shoes/accessories, don't leave them to the last second. Also, be mindful that you may need new underwear to suit the dress.
  • Put together a little emergency beauty kit for her – include things like a compact, lippy, bobby pins, safety pins, gum, perfume, etc.
  • Offer a helping hand if they need anything picked up/dropped off before the wedding.
  • The bride may need help packing the night before, so pop over with your best packing skills.
  • Get onto Spotify and put together an upbeat wedding morning playlist and put the Champers on ice.
  • Be sure to have a list of suppliers and their contact info for the day – you don't want the couple to have to deal with anything on the day.

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On the day

  • Don't be late – it's going to be a long day and you'll need to be on it.
  • Give everyone a copy of the wedding morning timeline – make sure everything runs smoothly (hair and makeup especially).
  • Familiarise yourself with the photographer/videographer/other vendors.
  • Don't let the bride know if anything is going wrong – do your best to deal with it discretely.
  • Keep the atmosphere light and fun – it's their wedding day after all!
  • Make sure the bride eats and drinks water!
  • Help her get dressed in the morning.
  • Don't drink too much Champers – you'll need a clear mind
  • Hold onto her bouquet during the ceremony
  • Make sure the bride's veil/dress/makeup is in tip-top shape throughout the day. You don't need to be her personal slave, just keep an eye out for any rogue flyaway hairs or wonky veils.
  • You may be asked to be in charge of the envelopes to pay the vendors, so mind them with your life.
  • Depending on the bride's dress, you might need to be on bathroom duty. Help a sista out!
  • Say a few words during the speeches (only if you're comfortable doing so, of course!)
  • Once the first dance is over, some guests will need a bit of encouragement to get up on their feet – this is where you come in. Get your dancing shoes on!

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