Bridesmaids' duties can vary depending on hierarchy. If you're a maid of honour, your duties may be significantly more. Nonetheless, you're expected to help your bride-to-be whether you're a bridesmaid or MOH. If you're not entirely sure what you've gotten yourself into, read on. It won't be as strenuous as you think...we hope. Kidding – you'll have a blast!
Before the wedding
- Get that WhatsApp group chat started with the bride and wedding party to keep everyone updated on events, things to do, etc.
- Make sure you're available to help out with any DIY tasks or decision making.
- Don't miss out on the wedding dress shopping – your bride will want you with her.
- That also goes for bridesmaids dress fittings.
- Be supportive and don't complain when your bride brings up any wedding talk. All in moderation, of course – you're allowed to keep her in check if it's all she wants to talk about.
- Be on hand with a bottle of Prosecco when needed.
- Pamper her – book some cute mates dates to get your nails/hair done.
- Plan the most amazing hen party – one that the bride will actually want.
In the run-up
- Make sure you attend any last-minute beauty appointments or if the couple is having a rehearsal dinner, you'll need to be there for that.
- If you've been asked to get your own shoes/accessories, don't leave them to the last second. Also, be mindful that you may need new underwear to suit the dress.
- Put together a little emergency beauty kit for her – include things like a compact, lippy, bobby pins, safety pins, gum, perfume, etc.
- Offer a helping hand if they need anything picked up/dropped off before the wedding.
- The bride may need help packing the night before, so pop over with your best packing skills.
- Get onto Spotify and put together an upbeat wedding morning playlist and put the Champers on ice.
- Be sure to have a list of suppliers and their contact info for the day – you don't want the couple to have to deal with anything on the day.
On the day
- Don't be late – it's going to be a long day and you'll need to be on it.
- Give everyone a copy of the wedding morning timeline – make sure everything runs smoothly (hair and makeup especially).
- Familiarise yourself with the photographer/videographer/other vendors.
- Don't let the bride know if anything is going wrong – do your best to deal with it discretely.
- Keep the atmosphere light and fun – it's their wedding day after all!
- Make sure the bride eats and drinks water!
- Help her get dressed in the morning.
- Don't drink too much Champers – you'll need a clear mind
- Hold onto her bouquet during the ceremony
- Make sure the bride's veil/dress/makeup is in tip-top shape throughout the day. You don't need to be her personal slave, just keep an eye out for any rogue flyaway hairs or wonky veils.
- You may be asked to be in charge of the envelopes to pay the vendors, so mind them with your life.
- Depending on the bride's dress, you might need to be on bathroom duty. Help a sista out!
- Say a few words during the speeches (only if you're comfortable doing so, of course!)
- Once the first dance is over, some guests will need a bit of encouragement to get up on their feet – this is where you come in. Get your dancing shoes on!